Love; so why not Love well? Most religions state that to Love is the "#1 commandment"; "above all else". To paraphrase, powerfully and profoundly, 'Love yourself, others and God as you are Loved... If we all did this, our world would certainly be a much better place. Even if we did a small improvement, we would see quantum rewards. But it gets complicated by the fact that most people do not love themselves very much.
It's a simple, yet tall order, but it is simple. If we Love ourselves, others and God as we are loved, then in theory, could not all other laws could be abolished, if we could learn to Love this way? This is because if we Love, truly Love, we would never do anything against others or ourselves. Period.
Our logical minds will invariably question this implicit directive. How do we Love ourselves when many of us don't Love ourselves very much? How do we Love others when many seem not very "lovable"? How do we Love ourselves like "God" Loves us, when "God" is this non-responsive enigma that allows death and destruction, poverty and famine?
I certainly have asked these questions; we all have. I've also discovered some answers that appear today quite clear to me. I do believe the process of amazing Love begins when our perspective and our understanding of the design of the human condition is examined. A paradigm shift happens inside of us when we realize that we are spiritual beings seeking a human experience, instead of human beings seeking a spiritual experience. This shift, along with an implicit examination of what we all have in common, why we behave certain ways, our self limiting logic, our instinct to seek spirituality, our humorous design, and a little humility, allows us to step back and see ourselves. When we can see from a bit higher up on the mountain while we muse, and while we are amused at the perfection of our chaotic, self seeking nature, we can relax and give up being so significant and serious.
However, in spite of this, there are things that do not seem to amusing. This planet is literally starving for Love.
Why? Isn't Love freely accessible?
How can something that is everywhere, anytime, be so inaccessible to so many billions of human beings?
To have Love overflowing our cups in every corner of our lives is our design, and our legacy. It is a natural law, called abundance. Abundance is what happens when any living thing is given the proper ingredients to thrive. Abundance for plants, is a simple combination of water, rich soil and sunlight, and perfect growth occurs. Abundance for animals, is a simple combination of habitat, food and water, and perfect growth occurs. Yet if we give people these basics, they will not experience abundance without understanding the laws of love too.
So many see Love as something extrinsic, outside of them or intrinsic, inside of them; the Truth is: We are Love. This may be difficult to initially comprehend, if however you shed everything and just listen to what rings true, you do remember you are Love, being Human.
Most religions decree, "we are made in the image of God" and "God is Love". The word "image" as Webster defines it, is "exact likeness". For those who know or believe in Divinity, these decrees endure all time and culture as simple Truth. If you embrace that God is Love, you must embrace that you are Love too. When you realize how truly abundant Love is, you begin to see it everywhere. You also begin to create it, and how well you create Love determines how well you live. So let's all practice this now, and if you need help, ask me how.
Odds are you are one of seven billion or so expressions of Love seeking that for which they already are, LOVE. It's as ironic as frenetically searching for your sunglasses while you're wearing them.
The mind is a poor master and a brilliant steward. Either your Love or your Ego is running the show and the mind defaults to the Ego. With practice, the mind is a dynamic steward for Love (which is you), to practice Love, Now.
It takes a still mind and a restless heart to Love; where the default is a restless mind and a still heart. If you find yourself resisting that you are Love; ask who's asking.
Your Destiny is for you to be Love, Now.
Your singular purpose is to playfully achieve Mastery over "Love, Now"...
In this state of being, we achieve all things beautiful that truly matter to Spirit: Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor and every other State of Grace...
The answer to how to "Love, Now" is counter-intuitively simple. A few will understand the simple commitment required to achieve Mastery. Most will leave the human experience in some state of unfulfillment and yearning, unless they are reminded that they are Love and they are here to "Love, Now..."
The human experience is only as meaningful and rewarding as we are able to experience life and each other in the moment, or what you may call, "The Now".
In “The Now,” we can Love without limit. The limit of Love is only up to our imagination and creativity. We then fulfill the Divine directive of the human experience, to Love, Now. "The Now" is the only time when we can experience our true essence, our destiny of Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor...
Our journey of Contentment; how well we live...depends how well we Love, Now...
"Love, Now" is experienced directly proportionate to the degree we manage the "anti-Love, Now" emotions such as anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, apathy...
Mark Twain once said. "I never lie, so I can forget.” I am not sure he realized how eloquently he summed up a key part of solving a great human dilemma. He was implying that he did not have the desire to keep open a portion of his "mental program" "remembering" his alibis and covering his lies. In a discretely profound way he was assuming full responsibility for his well being and chose to commit his wit and intellect to more proactive behavior.
Perhaps a more sinister against the "Love, Now," way we do this, are the dark "programs" we keep open and alive that may be decades old. These are the negative or dysfunctional experiences we use to essentially define us in ways that do not serve "Love, Now". False beliefs of inadequacy, fears, judgment, bigotry, trust and an almost infinite list of other self seeking, dark programs are examples. We find unlimited excuses to keep these open to justify our self seeking behavior to keep us well victimized and out of 'Love, Now".
When we perceive we are "victimized" by people, circumstances, and our own behaviors, we allow the results of these experiences to emote "anti-Now" emotions such as anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, apathy...
And we don't let go...we counter-intuitively will hold on to them with such exhausting effort. We allow the opening of anti "Love, Now" mental program, after anti "Love, Now" mental program, after another. The more we open, the more convinced we are that we have "the right" to keep them open. Consequently, more and more of our relatively finite wit and intellect is consumed in the pre-occupation of "the right" to experience anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, apathy...
We then sacrifice "the Divine Right" to choose and experience Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor...
We do have "the right" to choose the outcomes of our experiences. So why do so many choose "the right" of anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, and apathy?
Perhaps the answer is glaringly obvious. It may simply boil down to what you could call the "what's in it for me" experience. The more we live our lives in "what's in it for me", the more convinced that we earn "the right" to live in emotions such as anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, apathy...
We stand strong for our right to be victimized. We put amazing amounts of energy into the experience. We demand to be victimized by, God, others, circumstance, country, race, money, upbringing, self, something...anything. Our hand is out, demanding our share of something. When we do not get that something, we exercise our right to emote anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, apathy...
This defaults less capacity to experience our true essence, our Divine destiny of Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor...
One excludes the other; it's the Law. Intuition claims we have little or no choice. Counter-intuition declares we have complete choice.
We choose to Love, Now. We also choose to not Love, Now...
and our journey of Contentment; how well we live...how well we Love depends on the choosing...
We are free Spirits. We have choice over Loving, Now. We have choice over not Loving, Now. Viktor Frankl (Man's Search for Meaning) chose to Love, Now, while in a concentration camp. Adolf Hitler chose to not Love, Now. Two extreme examples of choice, purposely exemplified because the other six billion or so of us fall somewhere in between.
Six billion or so, all with the freedom to choose Love, Now. That puts shivers down my spine.
Choosing Love is innate, it is instinctual within us. Ask any new mother.
Choosing Love is a quantum step, such that commitment is required. A commitment that "I will honor you."
"I will forget about me, I will get out of the way, I will seek to understand you first...
just for Now."
Mastery of this, is the Promise to having Destiny filled lives of Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor...the Promise that we can live to our human potential of Loving...
We live the "what's in it for you, first; then me" experience.
It may be a counter-intuitive option. It is however the only option to experience true Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor and Contentment.
It is in the giving first, that we experience Destiny filled lives of more Joy, Peace, Kindness and Honor than we know what to do with and our cups overflow indiscriminately onto all of those around us...
We live in the "Now"; we Love in the "Now".
We remind others to do the same or we remind others to blame. We are free Spirits to choose.
When we remind others to experience our ultimate human Destiny, we experience our ultimate human Destiny...
"Loving, Now"...
I commit to remind you of this every day. I commit to give to you without the expectation of reciprocity. In doing so I continue to thrive and grow. I live free of need, my cup overflows into your cup, which overflows into others, which overflows into others, which overflows into others. I experience my true essence, my destiny of Joy, Peace, Kindness, Honor...
A tender journey of Contentment; to live well...to often cry tears of Joy and Gratitude instead of tears of of anger, resentment, self pity, sadness, and apathy. Why do you think we were designed to shed tears either way?
Because we have choice; because we are free Spirits. We do not always have always free bodies, but we will always be free Spirits with the Divine right to choose and experience Loving, Now...
I live my right to Love, Now...to my deepest core. I declare it from the mountain top for all of the world to hear. Those who wish to listen and commit to their Divine right to experience Love, Now, I am here to Love you Now.
Follow me to where we all belong, to where we make pure Love. Follow me to your heart, and I will follow you to mine.
I invite you to examine my life, you will verify that it is transparent and an open book. My spiritually radiant, best friend and wife, Lori and I have dedicated our lives to thousands of hours of learning how to Love each other, "Now". We live to out do each other in Honor and Kindness. We teach one another Joy and Peace.
In this commitment to Love, Now, an authenticity that is permanent and "all reaching" occurs in our Hearts and Minds to live in "The Now".
To Give in "The Now.
To Love in "The Now".
You know we have it when you see us, because we remind you of you Loving, Now...
The dividends of "Loving, Now" yields abundance that is breath taking. It shows up in our lives with a sense of infinite Spiritual belonging, youthful exuberance, and a priceless twenty-seven year friendship and marriage. It produced deeply centered children, who's natural genius continually blossoms. We have deep, life long friendships, rewarding business opportunities, and powerful connections to others who's cups overflow onto us.
Unification, camaraderie, and flow occur from authentic hearts and minds committed to love. There is a spirit of altruism, just because. We feel deeply connected to the God Source, recognized, acknowledged and Loved by this Source. And exactly like Nature, everything works in Harmonious balance.
The natural and effortless rewards are Destiny filled lives of Joy, Peace, Kindness and Honor and our cups overflow indiscriminately onto all of those around us...
We love in "The Now"; we Give in "The Now", we Live in "The Now"...
We remind others to do the same...
When we remind others to do the same, we experience our ultimate human Destiny...
Loving, Now...
Come, "Love Now", with me.
Robert Bohen
Mission Statements
In 1996 I wrote this mission statement after studying months of Stephen Covey's work. It took three months to complete because it was a thorough examination of what really mattered to me. This is not something one can do hastily. All I can say today, many years later, is that every single word of this has come true. There is infinite power and providence in commitment when one delves deep and put what he finds to paper.
The Mission Statement of: ROBERT BOHEN
Spiritual: A spiritual leader and teacher who, through partnerships, actively shares timeless principles and leadership skills to other men and women based on Jesus Christ, Apostle Paul, Steven Covey, John Gray, and other wise leaders before me. Synergistically with Lori, we teach relationship skills based on our spiritually centered example of what a truly beautiful institution marriage can be. I am a spiritual mentor to my family and others.
Husband: A deep rooted spiritual husband who honors Lori by providing time in our home to effectively raise and care for our sons, to chase her dreams, and to impeccably care for herself. An excellent provider who provides the resources and latitude to allow a comfortable and safe lifestyle for Lori, who provides her with peace of mind and trust for her well being. A romantic, passionate lover who is sensitive to her needs and desires. A husband that gives her a sense of pride and satisfaction because of consistent, ethical, behavior. A husband that makes time for her and is sensitive, gentle, vulnerable, who creates an empathic, safe environment for Lori to openly express herself. A man with a purpose driven marriage and friendship that is continuously improving, growing, youthful, and spontaneous. A master at understanding the feminine psyche balanced with gentle masculinity and tender wisdom. To assist and help her dreams and desires in any way possible. A man who challenges her to aspire in anything she wishes to do to better her life. Her true, great friend.
Father: A spiritual and life mentor who is vulnerable, open, and willing to course correct, and admit mistakes. Who provides a foundation of unity, safe refuge, a base station that continuously offers consistency of behavior, one on one time, wisdom, safe, open communication, trust, empowerment, infinite unconditional love, appropriate discipline, and life role modeling. A friend to their friends that provides a welcome hospice and place of pride and enjoyment for them. Seen by them as a leader that teaches work ethic, respect, timeless principles, honor, loyalty, civic responsibility and a strong inner foundation. A father that provides opportunities for education, activities, spirituality, pleasure, and learning life skills. A father that is consistently present at their activities of accomplishment and genuinely acknowledges their efforts. To seek first to understand and live in transparency. Their true friend and mentor.
Friend: A genuine friend that offers a psychological place of sanctuary. A friend that shares the abundance mentality that is catalytic to growth in all aspects of their lives if they are receptive to it. A man who brings unexpected joy and thoughtfulness to their lives. A man who is trustworthy and trusting with honor and loyalty. A friend who understands that relationships are subject to entropy and takes the time to nurture them. A conduit of all resources that God has empowered me with. A friend who will not take sides in a dispute, but attempt to wisely view all perspectives and lend my subjective wisdom, if asked. A friend who seeks first to understand and comes from a position of humility. A friend that remembers what is important to others and acknowledges them. A friend that is playful, open, and spontaneous. A good steward. A friend that does not gossip, but seeks to always protect their integrity and reputation. A friend that seeks opportunity for the success of others. A True friend.
A human being: A man of unalterable character with a deep sense of love and purpose. A humanitarian who contributes to his earthly brothers and sisters. A philanthropist. A man who is dedicated to continuous improvement. An athlete who inspires others to be athletic. A man who practices sound nutrition and shares the knowledge with others. A man who leaves a legacy in others, friends, and family. A thoughtful, curious, capable, energetic motivator. A man who sets an example to others as a result of consistent ethical Christian behavior. A man who does anonymous good natured things for humanity.
Business: A principle centered businessman who is deeply concerned about his customers and to always provide a fair value with high quality service. An employer who cares about the well being of my employees, who treats them with respect and as if they were a volunteer. A man who empowers them with trust and equality. A good steward of money, who plans for the future. One who stays abreast of the technology in his field. A fair and honest business partner. A man who performs his services and earns without the pretense of status. To continuously educate and be educated. To carefully resolve issues with a win, win outcome in mind. To financially aspire with the resolve that financial rewards are to serve all other priorities and in itself is not the priority. To contribute to society by supporting families and contributing to the tax base. To always help an outstretched hand or charity. To mentor and set an example to others. To be truthful and honest to others. To be an example of love and timeless principles, always.
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Click here to view some Relationship Laws and to create your Mission Statement for your relationship, click here to Love, Now
Click here to view what I believe motivates us. We are either Loving or Manipulating as a result of living a life of Desire or Obligation. Which way would you say you live? Click here to confirm.
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The Masters Program (TMP)-1996-1998 -Dr. Bob Shank.
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Lectured on Dr. Covey’s Principle Centered Leadership and Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.
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Completed the Landmark Education Curriculum. Landmark Forum, The Advanced Course, Landmark Forum in Action (LFIA), The Self-Expression and Leadership Program, The Family Coaching Sessions, The Leadership and Assisting Programs, Introduction Leaders Program, The Seminar Leaders Program, Communication Course: Access to Power, Advanced Communication Course: The Power to Create, Landmark Seminar Program, The Landmark Forum for Teens (assisted), The Landmark Forum for Young People (assisted), Being Extraordinary, Breakthroughs -Living Outside the Box, Causing the Miraculous, Commitment, Creativity- Life by Design, Integrity, Living Passionately, Money, Producing Breakthrough Results - I & II, Relationships, Sex & Intimacy. Assisted in leadership and community events at Landmark.
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Numerous conferences and seminars in marketing, operations, leadership, motivation, computer language, technology solutions, graphic arts, market analysis, medicine, physiology, pharmacology and viral research, very rapid learner of new technology and vernacular.
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Managed and conducted "Design for Living" seminars with the co-founder of Landmark Education, with speakers Jack Rafferty and Lori Bohen.
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Self Awareness Institute - graduate
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Hoffman Institute - graduate.
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Sterling Institute of Relationships - graduate.
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Certified and trained in TIP "Trauma Intervention Program" under Wayne Fortin.
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Trained at Saddleback Church as a psychological counselor.
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Classes 101, 201, 301, 401 and SHAPE - Saddleback Church.
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* These statements have not been evaluated by any religious or governing agency and are not intended to influence, coerce or impose on anyone. The information contained herein is for familial, philosophical and Spiritual purposes only and are for sharing Love only. To the best of our ability, this is also Biblically correct. It is not a spiritual admonition (other than the direct references to Christ's teachings, of whom we try implicitly to honor) and are not intended to replace the advice or directives of spiritual or psychological professionals. We limit our understanding to what we understand: The One Directive: Love yourself and others as we are loved by Christ, and for the same reasons.
It's not what you want; it's from where you want it. So want well...
...whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things. Philippians 4:8
"I will give the best of my LOVE, always, everywhere, and to everyone, and I will do so Now.” “I CHOOSE, LOVE NOW”
No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE. No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE
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